Help for Bullies & Bystanders

 

If you've made your way to this page, I'm guessing you've realized you've been labeled a bully and you want help!

YOU'VE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE!

I was both bullied and the bully. The truth is bullying is a behavior and we can all bully. No one is exempt. We all mess up from time to time.

If you've been labeled a bully, chances are you've been hurting people intentionally or unintentionally.

As you're reading this, remember that:

1 teen dies every half hour in the USA because of bullycide (suicide because of bullying)

Just as you have gained power to bully, you also have the power & control to stop bullying now and save someone's life!

 

WHAT TYPE OF BULLY ARE YOU?

The Verbal/Gossip/Rumor Bully:

I just repeated what everyone else was saying. I wasn't trying to hurt anyone. I didn't think it would get this crazy and out of control.

The Emotional Bully:

Hey I tried to be their friend. We were like best friends for awhile, but that got old. But now I got a whole new group of friends and they don't like her/him. 

The Joking Bully:

Geesh! I was just joking around. Can't they just take a joke? I never meant to hurt anyone.

The Bystander Bully:

I was just going along with the crowd. My friends all do it. What's the big deal? I'm not really hurting anybody. I'm mostly a bystander.

The Tough Bully:

I'm tough. Kicking butt is what I do. My whole family fights. It's all I know.

The Fearful Bully:

I'm afraid. I used to get bullied, now I'm the bully and everyone leaves me alone. If I stop acting all tough, then I might get bullied again.

The Jealous Bully:

I'm jealous. It's not fair. Some people have everything, the looks, the guys/girls, friends, good grades, money, popularity, fame, etc. But I don't have anything. No friends. No family that care. And no money to buy anything.

The Revenge Bully: I'll Get You Back

I want to hurt them the way they have hurt me. They deserve to suffer too. One way or another I going to get them back.

The Rejection Bully: Leaving Others Out

I've got my own group of friends. We sit together every day at lunch, the same place. Everyone knows it. I even save their seats if they don't get there right away. New people always try to sit down. I don't think it's wrong to tell them the seat is saved. How is that bullying? There's lots of places to sit.

The Controlling Bully:

It's my way or the highway. My friends all know it. They don't seem to mind. So what's the problem?

The Physical/Dating Violence Bully:

I never left a bruise, I mostly yelled. Besides they deserved it, they lied to me about where they were and who they were with. If I can't have them no one will. I told them I'm sorry. Isn't that enough?

The Sexual Harassment Bully:

Hey anyone can see they're flaunting their stuff. I didn't mean anything by what I said. I only was trying to be friendly.

The Cyber/Text Bully:

Hey, all my friends were like posting all these mean things about this one stuck up girl from school. I couldn't stand her. So we all created a hate page. It seemed fun at the time. Kind of like a cyber party on facebook, but I never meant to hurt anyone.

The Peer Pressure Bully:

My friends wouldn't let up until I did it. I didn't want to. But I didn't want to look like an idiot.

 

Change Starts Here

TAKE OUR SURVEY

C- Change You

H- Help Yourself

A- Actions Under Control

N- New Person

G- Goals for Future

E- Empower Others

C means CHANGE YOU. You're the only one you can change anyways. You really have no power or control over any other person. Although change is never easy, the best things in life, come through change.

H means HELP YOURSELF. Just being on this page, shows me that you are ready and want help. Help comes in a variety of ways. You may need to talk with a school counselor, your parents, or even a professional counselor to work through your bullying issues.

A means GET YOUR ACTIONS UNDER CONTROL. Just being aware of your triggers (a person, place or thing) and knowing what sets you off to want to bully can help to avoid furthering bullying. Staying away from known triggers can help to change your actions into more positive ones. 

N means YOU BECOME A NEW PERSON. You can be whoever and whatever you want to be. It's entirely up to you. Although it may take others awhile to see that change in you, don't give up, be who you want to be, not who people say you are. Never look back.

G means to SET GOALS FOR THE FUTURE. You can begin today by deciding what you want to do, both in short term and long term. Find out what you're good at and move in that direction. Setting reasonable goals will help you to achieve success and change your life. Be patient with yourself if you don't reach those goals as quickly as you'd hoped. All good things in life take time.

E means to EMPOWER OTHERS. Once you have made the transition in your life, you can now help others who may have bullying behaviors too! Share your story of how you changed your life. But mostly BE THE CHANGE that others can see. By being an example of not bullying, you will be empowering people, changing hearts, and saving more lives than you'll ever know.

 

NOW THAT YOU'VE MADE THE CHANGE:

Please Let Us Know

-Stand up for Yourself & Others

-Don't Walk Away If Someone's Being Bullied

-Do Something in Your Community

• Take Our Bully Buster Pledge

 

• Become a Bully Buster

 

• Bring Our Bully Buster Program into Your School/ Community

 

• Start a Bully Buster Group in Your School or Community

 

• Enter Our Bully Buster Contest